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How to Win a Girls Heart: Part 5- Become her best friend so you can be the best Boyfriend!

You’ve probably heard others say that girls are pretty gullible. That’s right, girls can be gullible but not so much when it comes to the A-Z part.  Huh? That means her close friends can know everything about her but there could always be that one thing that she is just not ready to reveal yet. It could be anything literally. It could be something that she regrets or something that she is experiencing at the moment.

Deep inside, girls always seek for that one person to talk about anything and everything with. They seek for this freedom where they don’t have to worry about the after consequences of letting this person know about whatever it is.

If you can become her real best friend before you become her boyfriend, trust me, you will be the best boyfriend she could ever have! This doesn’t mean you nag her to tell you everything or expect her to though, but it means that you show her love in a way she feels she can be completely open and honest with you about anything.

The subject of part 5 of this series will be ‘Let the girl breathe’.

Here are the first four parts if you haven’t read it already:

How to Win a Girls Heart: Part 1   Part  2   Part 3   Part 4

By being her best friend and boyfriend at the same time, you could win her heart and keep it.

What matters? Winning and losing her heart after a short period of time or winning and keeping it as long as you live? 

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How to Win a Girls Heart: PART 4- She judges you by the way you judge other girls

Guys, if a girl truly falls for you, she wouldn’t want to keep any secrets from you, definitely not the ones that you should know about. She would usually make the effort herself to tell you all about her past relationship/s and whatever else that she feels you should know about.

Some guys think it’s gangsterish [made up word] to go around updating Facebook statuses swearing at and judging other girls for no reason. 9/10 of the times, they have never even seen that girl or talked to her at any point but will be so quick to spread gossips about her. If you think updating statuses or sharing negative posts about girls makes you a cool person, you will be surprised to know that you are wrong.

Do you know what this reveals about you to her? That you are too quick to judge other girls and that you expect girls to be super perfect. Nobody is perfect.

Believe me, if you constantly act in the way I’ve mentioned above, it is highly unlikely that the girl you’re after will fall in love with you. Even if she does let her hormones take over and go for you, there is a fine 50/50 chance that she will keep secrets from you. By secrets, we’re talking about serious things that you probably should know about.

Us girls, we firmly believe in this saying:

If you keep judging other girls and calling them names all the time, chances are your girl will not want to be open with you to avoid being judged by you.

All of what I’ve written above is only if your girl is not a gossiping type or the one who is not quick to judge other girls.

The subject of next part will be ‘Become her best friend so you can be the best Boyfriend too!’

Here are the previous 3 parts of of this series.

How to Win a Girls Heart: Part 1   Part 2    Part 3

Have you fallen in this trap? Let me and other readers know how you feel about it. 

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How to Win a Girls Heart: PART 3- Don’t remind her of her past or compare her to your EX if you see yourself in her future!

There is a damn good chance that you probably did or would make yourself out to be a Mr.Perfect who doesn’t care about whatever that happened in her past because you want to be in her future. Is this really the case?

Because often times, guys lie that they don’t care about their girlfriend’s past simply because they’re going through that infatuation stage where they think they are crazily in love with a girl. And sadly, most girls fall for this because they all want that someone to love them for who they are bla bla.

If what I said above applies to you…

You need to either truly become the person you made yourself out to be to her or you should leave her for both of your good. Why would you lie or pretend to win her heart if you seriously don’t see a future with her?

If however, you seriously meant what you said to her in the beginning with all those sweet coated promises, don’t ever talk about her past or remind her about it at any point in her life.

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Don’t leave a scar that will ruin your peace.

You might win her heart and might even manage to be in a relationship with her for some time or get to the point of marrying her and so on, but if you ever remind a girl about her past or try to upset her by bringing up anything to do with her past, you’re going to leave a scar in her heart that will ruin your peace forever. Girls forgive but remember things very well, especially these kind of things and you might end up switching on her permanent mood swing button.

Remind her of her past doesn’t just mean talking about it; your actions will speak better.

Yeah, you might not speak to her about her ex-husband or ex-boyfriend but if you ever act in a way that shows her that you don’t trust her, you’re in trouble. Remind yourself what you said to her in the beginning and see her as a new person, just your girl and trust her.

Comparing her to your ex- girlfriend/wife is another way to kill it.

Yeah do you or would you do that? Make sure you don’t! Trust me, you will never want to get a girl started on this whole X Y Z funny business. It will be a worst case scenario and quite often, a never ending case if you get a girl started on with arguments about past relationships.

The subject of the next part of this series will be “She judges you by how you judge other girls”.

Here are the first and second parts of this series if you haven’t read them already:

How to Win a Girls Heart: PART 1- Does Your Look Matter?

How to Win a Girls Heart: PART 2- Are You Being Romantic or Desperate?

Does this topic relate to your love life? I’d love to know what you have to say about this! 

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How to Win a Girls Heart: PART 2- Are You Being Romantic or Desperate?

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Trying to impress a girl in a romantic manner is VERY different to doing stuff that can come across as being a bit too desperate. Do not ever underestimate a girl’s power to know when a guy is complimenting her genuinely and when he is complimenting her because he wants something.

Likewise, nothing lets her know how desperate you are more than your own words when you start talking about inappropriate things [sexual] constantly, especially when you two haven’t even got to know each other properly yet. If that’s what you’re after then you’re not in love with her and you should also stop reading this post.

Don’t commit real life plagiarism.

Another thing guys should keep in mind is that, searching for tips on how to impress her, win her heart etc is all fine because it just means you want to make your best effort for her BUT please do not copy or memorize sentences word for word and commit plagiarism in real life! Imagine she says to her mate “ah he said this cute line to me today that no one has ever said before” and then the curious mate [girls and curiosity are best friends] ends up Googling it. :/

Get ideas and inspirations but don’t say or write things word for word. Dedicating a sweet quote or saying is fine but don’t make it out like those are your own words.

If you’re really in love with her, take her out to places that could mean something for her rather than to a park or cinemas all the time. Not that watching a movie together is a bad thing to do but you can be different. Show her that you’re not like every other guy and just do something different. Whether it be a trip to the local museum or to the beach, take her to places where she can breathe in some fresh air and know that someone wants her to be happy.

The main point of this subject is that whatever you do and say should not come to her as if you just want her for lustful desires and it should say to her that you just want to see her happy and be herself.

Oh yes some guys take being sweet to another level and fake compliment for no reason, don’t do that. If her eyeliner is flooding under her eyes, she will not be impressed with your poem about how her eyes look like sword blabla you get what I’m saying?

The subject of the next part of this series will be “Don’t remind her of her past if you see yourself in her future!”.

Here is the part one of this series if you haven’t read it already!
How to Win a Girls Heart: PART 1- Does Your Look Matter?

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