I wish I could say I was joking about the above but, I’m really not.
Hold on a moment though…
It’s not really fair to dump your “soul mate”, “other half” blah blah just because he called you “fat” is it?
Hmm yeah, it’s not fair.
So let’s talk about a few important things about your relationship to help you make a well thought out decision.
You might have already heard about this method before but I’m going to tell you anyway because it’s really worth giving a shot.
It’s simple but you have to try to do it this way. Go somewhere alone where your mind will find peace and sit there for some time. Take a piece of paper and pen with you and while you’re there, think about all the things you like or love about this boyfriend of yours.
When I say “things you love about your boyfriend”, I’m talking about his personality. Write down the things you really like or love about his personality and the way he treats you.
On the other side of the paper, write down the list of things you dislike or hate about your boyfriend.
Does the negative points outweigh the positives?
If yes, the harsh truth is that you’re probably wasting time with the wrong person. If this boy is doing no good for you in your life other than making you feel low about yourself by calling you “fat” and so on, do you really think he is the one?
What if his positive points outweigh the negatives?
What if, on the list you’ve created, you seem to have a lot more things you love about his personality than the ones you hate?
This is where this beautiful quote by Bob Marley comes in:
“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
^ That is life summed up in a single sentence. After reading the positives and negatives you have written about your boyfriend, do you feel in your heart he is worth suffering for?
Think about the following questions when it comes to him calling you “FAT”…
- How often does he do that?- If he’s doing that to you every time he sees you…please scroll up and read the first sentence on this post.
- Does he think it’s a joke? – You need to stand up and let him know his sense of humour sucks.
- Does he say it in a serious tone like he proper means it? – Either way he needs to learn to keep his mouth shut.
- Is he aware of how much it has impacted your self-esteem? – You know there’s a good chance he’s doing this to you thinking you’re not taking it seriously. Have you made it clear to him how much he’s hurting you every time he calls you “fat”?
If he’s truly unaware of how much he’s hurt you when (or every time) he called you fat, it’s your responsibility to let him know.
If he is aware of it and he still carries on calling you “fat”, once again, please scroll up and read the first sentence on this post.
Now don’t get me wrong though. I’m all for fighting to save a true love relationship and all that, however, if you ever find yourself spending months or years wasting time/energy trying to just tolerate his BS, Leave this person and move the hell on already.
Life is way too short to be wasting with the wrong person (and people).
It’s your call now. Do you think he’s worth wasting your time and energy with?